Now this post was inspired by something I have been going through and didn’t expect it at all. We didn’t plan for it or see it coming so if there is a next time I guess we will know better. (No not pregnant) But this can be applied in most any situation and I suggest to think these over and do your best to not let yourself get too low or helpless about the circumstances because most of the time we are far from powerless. Whichever direction we take it’s still moving forward in one way or another. In the end you never know maybe this will make you a stronger person who can respond and handle difficult times with grace and mutual respect.
1. Identify your feelings and own them
When disappointment hits hard it’s difficult to know exactly what you’re feeling. A messy mix of emotions and confusion about the situation. Whether it be a personal disappointment or being disappointed in someone else- these processes can be hard to navigate. You have to know it’s okay to be upset, hurt, confused, surprised, deceived, angry and actually just purely disappointed. This didn’t go your way but often that’s how things work out and it’s how we learn life’s lessons. It makes us stronger in the end and shows us that life isn’t always peachy.
2. Try a new hobby, skill or trade
A positive way to spin a crummy time is to learn something from it. So be proactive and in turn productive for your bright future. What things are you into? What is that one hobby or language you’ve always wanted to learn? Why not try it now and expand your knowledge and experience! Knitting or crocheting is usually a popular choice. Start a blog about anything you love and I guarantee someone will be into it! Start exercising and eating better to lose that weight you’ve been battling since the new year.
3. Spoil yourself with self-care
Now c’mon what is the first thing you wanna do when things go wrong? So that’s your answer right there. Maybe take yourself out or go workout. Do a face mask, hair mask, foot soak or epsom salt bubble bath. Journal or write-get your words and feelings flowing. There are many ways to make yourself feel better and explore what your feeling before you can move on.
4. Be with others and talk it out
Talking to your support system no matter if that’s a spouse, friend, family member or role model/guide is very important to get these feelings off your chest. Someone else can converse with you and maybe provide you some comfort, solace and perspective that you wouldn’t otherwise see. Having any kind of disappointment can diminish us pretty easily and we tend to get hard on ourselves when something has not gone the way we planned. One way you can do this is by listing the pro’s and con’s of the situation and gathering what you might have learned from it. It turns a bad feeling into a learning experience.
5. Get back in the ‘saddle’ OR move on
At some point, the wallowing has to stop, the conversations get circular and even when you just don’t know what to do- you just have to try again. Or you can move on to a new goal in life and make the best of it. Everyone’s’ life has a different set of circumstances and while someone might seem like they are ‘on top of the world’ you never know what it’s like behind closed doors. So make the best of a crappy situation and buck up! Maybe if you can’t get to this place where you’re okay then my other tips will come in handy and you can slowly but surely move past it.