Things to do when you’re bored

Things to do when you’re bored

Today I’m sharing some ideas of things to do when you’re bored. I know you can find thee posts everywhere but I had this list compiled on a day when I myself was bored. Maybe you can help me think of even more things that one can do in any situation when we’re bored. I grouped some things like exercise and any activity such as hiking, biking or rock climbing. I guess those are each individual things. I should have compiled it better but I’m sure I’ll have even more editions of this post to come….

  • sleep
  • sing
  • clean your room, house, car
  • write something/blog
  • tv/movies/netflix/youtube
  • read a book, newspaper, blog
  • listen to music/podcast/tedtalk/etc
  • surf the web, research
  • play games
  • plan an app game on your phone
  • spend time with wife, husband, significant other, family or friend
  • pinterest (self explanatory)
  • self care
  • give advice/personal growth
  • create new goals
  • go shopping or browse around
  • chat with online friends, text someone, go visit someone
  • burn a candle, warm scentsy or diffuse essential oils
  • play/watch snapchat
  • travel
  • babysitting
  • take a shower
  • do your hair/makeup
  • take pics on cellphone or camera
  • decorate/buy decor
  • cook or bake
  • pen pals
  • dance
  • horoscopes, moon and star gaze
  • buy gifts
  • use planner
  • go donate something
  • volunteer
  • go to the library
  • exercise or find a new activity

    What things do you do when you’re utterly bored? How do you entertain your children when they say “mom, I’m bored…”? Any tips, tricks or other boredom buster ideas, leave them in the comments below!

5 things that changed my life

5 things that changed my life

This year has brought a lot of changes in my life and so I thought these would be fun to share and explain how they impacted my daily life. It didn’t happen just overnight either, it was a lot of hard work and ‘cleaning up my life in all areas’ if there’s such a way to describe it. I hope you get something from this and maybe will apply these things to your own life and make yourself feel amazing in the last week or so of the year. Who’s ready to say goodbye to 2018 and expand even further on that personal development and growth in the following year? I sure am… so here’s what I did.

1. Minimalism:

And not in that typical “its a new movement so it’s cool” kinda thing. I have done serious decluttering and organizing and I have found so much joy in it, even without Kon Mari method. I’ve gotten rid of bag and boxes of things that I don’t care about or won’t miss. The things that I thought I had deep attachments too (as simple as physical books, perfumes, clothes etc) I simply let go of and therefore felt ten pounds lighter in return.

2. Cutting out toxic people and unfollowing anything I don’t care about:

This kinda ties into the last one but I do not have time to waste time and if you treat me bad or if I don’t feel like I need to see funny cat videos everyday on FB then you’ve gotta go! I have gone over and over it many times cutting out more and more junk and pointless or spammy accounts etc and MAN it feels good to tidy up those spaces that are like digital mental clutter. Now I see only what I want when I want.

3. Find my passions again:

I really, really love blogging and yeah maybe I’m not as consistent as I should be and maybe my content is surface level randomness but that’s why I love it. I hope you get something good from here- I work hard and give you real deep emotions. I also really love brush lettering, reading and journaling which I want to make even more time for practicing and learning more to improve skills.

4. Change my lifestyle:

I’m not perfect but I’m cooking a lot more than I ever have and that gives us both better nutrition and a wider variety of healthy foods to explore and play with. Water has always been my nemesis but now I turn to it to re-hydrate and feel awake. It fuels my body and I understand how crucial it is. Fitness is a huge part of my life that I need to make more of an effort in. I have plans to start at a gym or begin an actual yoga practice. I tend to try something and then not follow through especially with exercise, I’m a lazy kind of person. I’m going to change that limiting belief and inner dialouge with myself starting now.

5. Spend time with quality friends and family/stay in touch:

Recently I’ve been trying to reconnect with those who I care about and want to get to know but haven’t stayed in touch with through busy life. A lot of people have a hard time with kids and jobs keeping up with but its no easier for me. I guess I need to reach out and be conscious of it more but my anxiety sorta holds me back in that way too. It’s something I wanna improve upon.

Do you have any stand out things you’ve done that has changed your life? If so, share in the comments below!

A Sister Part 2

A Sister Part 2

If you missed it, please read  A Sister Part 1 before you read here so you know (what in the world) I’m talking about….

     As I sat there shocked, my mom burst into tears and got rather standoff-ish. Guess she had a right to be. Come to find out, everyone had known before me, I had just discovered (and would continue to find out family secrets in the coming years, some of which I talk about in this blog) that more things were hidden from me which I had every right to know just like everyone else. I was really excited though and actually I took it the best I think. I wanted to meet her right now. I guess my sister Angela found out from my grandpa but I don’t know about the others. Either way, I felt betrayed that no one cared to tell me or thought I was important enough to know. How would that make you feel? Pretty awful right? I suppose I got over it right away, being sent off to camp was even more exciting. I would start my to write the sister I never knew I had, even though I always had a sneaking suspicion.
Off to camp I went, riding horses at Camp Tamarack and if you’re in the NW area, you should  know what an amazing place it is. I went for several years and here I am getting way off track…….
okay. 
One day I wrote my *new sister, ya know the one I had no idea about until about a week earlier. 
 I do not remember my letter to her, but I guess I wrote something about finding out about her and wanting to know every single detail of her life that instant. I asked for pictures and details of my new niece. I think that first letter must have been like 5 pages. I asked about her adoptive family and how they were to her etc. I had never felt like this before and it was so important to me that this was my chance to uncover who she was. The days that passed in between felt like a year, I’m lucky I was at camp or I’m sure I would’ve just gone crazy.
In her letter back here’s a sample of what was said.….
“Thank you very much for the pictures. I’m putting them all together. Except for the one of all of you. I have to show that one off Hopefully one day soon, we can all take one together. That would be really neat.
 Oh and my mom’s name is ______.  
Nora, you’re such a sweet girl! I am so proud to call you my baby sister. 
Okay not a baby, but I always wanted to say that  
If you ever want to ask me anything about me or whatever, ask! I’d love to answer anything for you. And I’d love to keep writing you.
You take care! We need to have you out here again soon! Talk to you soon:) Tell your Mom I love her if you hear from her before I do. (okay the smileys are getting scary!) 
I love you! Big Sis, Kim
 
 How could I get so lucky?! Such a sweet sister, someone I barely knew. I suppose I might’ve visited before I went to camp, I can’t really remember. I went there a few times before my dad passed in 2002 and I never knew what a crucial part of my life she’d eventually be. It’s kinda hard looking back too knowing things happened the way they did- but I am so thankful to have her everyday! When my dad passed away I spent a year or so bouncing around and finally ended up in Vancouver with my incredible new sister. I specifically remember reeling over the same questions of trauma and loss. I cried and cried. Feeling safe and vulnerable was important to me then, she made me feel that way better than most of my family could. I don’t know how she does it but I always feel so deeply heard and understood.
To make a long story short. I ended up living with her and her family for the rest of my high school education to have a stable home, family, and school. I was able to get assistance to get counseling as well and have medical/dental/vision care. It was about time, they generously decided to expand their house and make an extra room for me. I loved living there and unfortunetly I went through my tough teenage years and sorta put her through hell. Oops! (didn’t mean to Kim) Well I also wanted to feature another letter from the following year after I moved in and went back to camp. The first letter anniversary. I loved it! And once I left for camp I recieved another letter covering the recent events at home and talking us through our own new “family” struggles.
Here goes:
J misses you!  August 2 2004 11:21pm
 “Nora, 
This may end up being short because its late here. But I wanted to write something so it reached you before you leave camp. Things are good here. J’s oarty was pretty good. Mom actualy came with Angela and Matt, which was nice. J got lots of new toys that you and I will enjoy, TONS of Polly Pockets!
Micheal will be here Friday. I’m getting really nervous. 
 Yes, J’s scab is healing. Almost gone. She shows me everyday.
I’m glad you are having fun! But I’m hoping things got better since you called me. I do understand your worrying. But remember- it won’t happen. 
You need somewhere to be where you won’t feel that way- And guess what? You’re here! We love you very much!
I have noticed that you have offered to help. And I do appreciate that. Maybe I’ll put you to work when you get back. he he.
Bad news- Whiskers (cat) will probably be gone when you get back. 
He totally peed all over your bed again. Good news is all the blankets and frame don’t smell-And we had to buy you a new mattress. 
I’m sad he has to go- but we can’t all live that way. 
We’ll have to maybe try some St John’s Wort together. Maybe it will help me too. I’d better go. Have to get up @6am. Please call when you get to Grammys. Love you lots, Kim

It wasn’t our shining hour but I remember so so so many times when I was struggling that year when I really had no one else close enough to talk openly to, she was there and made me feel better every single time. I don’t know how but she always talked me out of being sad. Sweetly. Sisterly. Calmly. Lovingly. I couldn’t express how immensely important that was to me. To give me a home and a place to stay with a toddler let alone and not knowing me very well either. It was incredible for her to do. I went to a good school, had pretty good friends for the most part, extracurricular sports and clubs, good teachers and tried so hard to pull good/acceptable grades- I was NEVER a good student.  I was by no means out of control but I wasn’t easy on her either. It wasn’t the best situation, I was being a really tough teenager and I commend her for handling it as well as she did.

Anyhow, I hate to cut this short but I don’t think I need any more details than that- for the sake of being discreet. But I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you comment and continue to ask or at least maybe relate to it, understand where I’m coming from. It’s a special bond I think between siblings but when you meet someone who’s belonged in it for so long- that’s different. I am so blessed and glad to have her found all of us. That’s her story….. and I’m glad she did!

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What did you think about this crazy timeline of events? What would you have done or have felt? 

 

A Sister Part 1

A Sister Part 1

Today, I decided to share something close to my heart. Like blood close. Something that nearly 100 million families in the United States have in their family.
ADOPTION.
Grandparents, parents, children, siblings and the whole entire family can be affected by. It’s a huge deal no matter what side of the equation you’re on.

When we talk about siblings, does blood relation really matter? When you have grown up together, taken vacations, made memories, shared literally everything down to shoes and clothes,  had every meal together and teased each other through the years?

I could go on and on. 

I was never taught that being full blood siblings mattered, (maybe that’s because all my siblings had different fathers except the oldest two) I was also taught that you never call them -half anything. In our house that was not okay. And I would get scolded if I ever called my sisters, half sisters and my brother, a half brother. So that was NOT happening and plus I never felt we were all that different growing up in the same household so I never felt like I should anyway. 

I always felt there was something missing, someone else out there. I had this feeling since I was about 10 years old and I never really shook it. I didn’t dare speak about it and I really just thought it was my imagination or I was crazy because my parents would never keep a secret so huge. We were a family and who wouldn’t share something so big and important. I thought on about it and it just stayed with me. Although I didn’t know when I was about ten years old that a lot of people hold onto private things and secrets in families that you may never expect otherwise. Little did I know in a few years the cat would be out of the bag….

How it all began

A summer afternoon in the hot, sticky middle of July (I think it was 2002), I was at my grandparents house where my mother was staying and on the side battling her demons. I knew that house like the back of my hand. Since my grandmother passed several years earlier I had spent lots of time visiting and spending nights with my grandfather there. Easy to say I knew every nook and cranny of that old traditional yellow house.

But this day I noticed something new; I admired photos of an Italian woman and her husband holding their pretty young daughter. Or so I thought. These pictures popped up overnight it seemed. They were everywhere, cards, holiday pictures, baby photos of the little girl and a few pictures of the couple. I looked and stared but knowing how many close friends my grandparents had, I just thought nothing of it. The more time passed the more that “feeling” came back and now it was bugging me. I knew there was more to this story and eerily famailar couple.

I asked my grandfather who it was in the photos, “who is in those pictures all over the living room?” I asked. “Oh no one,” he said “friends of the family.” I called him out, I knew every ‘friend of the family’ and honestly I knew he was lying to me. I went to ask my mother immediately. As I asked the same questions, she froze, deer in headlights, stammering- searching for words…
She replied with something to the effect of. “yes she’s your oldest sister, and I gave her up for adoption.” She explained the whole thing and my memory still fails everything she told me, but it was the general response of “I could not afford to have a child, I was young, naive and yada yada….”

Before I knew it, questions by the billions came flying out of my mouth.

Who was she?

How old is she?
Where is she right now?

What is she like?
Will she like me?
Does she have kids, do I have other nieces and nephews?
(Which I thankfully did, a beautiful little niece)

Where does she live? Etc.
So many questions ran through my head, as anyone would in that sort of situation. I was utterly in shock at how this had never come up or been revealed to me sooner. I was so heartbroken and very happy at the same time.
As the tears washed over my face, I was gripping for answers.
Please comment and tell me- Did you ever have a family secret or anything to this nature? 
How did you respond and what was it like? 
for more read this next,

A Sister Part 2

 

Happy Friday!

Happy Friday!

Welcome to Happy Friday! This is a linkup that happens every Friday on Why Girls are Weird website and her site is amazing anyway so go check her out-tell her I sent you! I love her space and I find that I learn a ton from her and she’s a genuine gem too! So if you’re at all interested then be sure to go link up and write your own Happy Friday list of anything that made you smile, laugh or enjoy your day through the week. Be sure to grab the picture on her blog or at the bottom of mine.

  1. Late night chats with one of your BEST friends
  2. new chamomile tea in your favorite mug
  3. glittery waterfall phone case (so it will work on my wireless charger again)
  4. Calm Premium- great meditations, great music, great sounds to fall asleep to and also bed time stories
  5. my HP ENVY 360 laptop! I’m in love with it and here I am blogging again! #yay
  6. inspirational quotes and motivational sayings
  7. Fall/Winter B&BW candles (although I didn’t get the French baguette one I wanted really bad)
  8. BLOGGING! I’m so happy about it, hopefully I’ll have some more holiday content here soon, let me know what you wanna read about
  9. Sean making pot roast in the crock pot for dinner tomorrow (I’m so excited!)
  10. Spotify premium-new account, new music!

what made you happy this week? 

December Goals and Intentions

December Goals and Intentions

Welcome back to the blog! Sorry it’s been so long and I’ll have a mini life update at the end to fill you in but first, let’s get into some December goals. I hope you had a great fall season and I’m ready for winter to be here. I am getting a new laptop in a few days (yes I’ve had a few computers in the past few years- too much to explain). And I’m excited to just do some personal growing in this last month of 2018. Get ready….

 

Personal:

Read daily 30 mins or one-two chapters

Turn off social media one hr before bed

Listen to more music/podcast/TED talks

Study permit test

 

Blog:

Write 2 posts a week M/W

Share to socials each time I post/pin/insta/fb/twiiter

New website theme?

Newsletter Friday

New graphic template for images

 

Health:

Drink water daily use water tracker bottle or 2 pink glass bottles

Wear Fitbit-track sleep and steps

Journal

Meditate

Workout 2-3x week (yoga/class or circuit training)

 

Marriage:

“Quality time”

Be more spontaneous

Physical touch often

 

Does anyone else feel like 2018 just FLEW by? It’s crazy I mean my year started out with so much promise and clarity. I don’t wanna be a negative Nancy but the majority of my year could have been better. Although this year has *definitely* taught me some lessons that seriously needed clear learning. I’m not sorry for 2018 at all, I guess it was challenging in the way that it was really what was best. I’m sure you understand what I mean and maybe your year was similar to that too. I didn’t meet many of the things I meant to yet- but I don’t believe that one year is end all be all. So I’ll just keep growing and striving to be a more complete version of me- like I imagined. (After all, the biggest lesson I learned is that no one is stopping me but myself). 

The break down of my year has gone as follows:

-paid off taxes

-moved from old house to old apartment

-regretted said choice

-Sean goes back to old job

-Sean leaves old job

-Sean gets back old job

-paid off additional debt

-*aim to get driving permit before end of year

-*bring blogging back’ be more consistent

 

And at this point that’s about it…. to be continued.

 

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October Goals and Intentions

October Goals and Intentions

Hello and welcome back! It is October and per usual I’m late but it’s okay. I’m fine with that. It is what it is. 

I’m trying to adapt a new mindset about doing what I can do and keep some balance in my daily life. I hope you enjoy these things I’m trying to reach. 

Personal:

-Work on AM/PM routine (update blog posts-repost)

-Start a no social media/no phone day/weekend (no phone after 9pm for sleep reasons)

-Journal for 30 mins OR read 30 mins

-Declutter computer and social media accounts (done/in progress)

Blog:

-1 post per week on the blog (tags/categories/archives)

-add and share to social accounts

-create all new graphics with current branding

Health:

-drink 2 waters per day

-wake up at 7am, go to bed at 11pm

-take multivitamin/vitamin C

Fitness:

-Start doing yoga

-cardio/stretch every other day

-work on getting splits back

 

What are your monthly goals and intentions for October? Are any of ours the same? If you’re not following me on Instagram be sure to, all my socials can be found on my sidebar!

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September Goals

September Goals

These are my goals for the month of September. I know I am halfway through the month already which I didn’t see coming so fast but these are ongoing and overarching. If you made goals this month please share them in the comments below.

BLOG:

-Blog 3x weekly -Newsletter Mondays -Share to Social Media every post -revamp pages and add in links to landing page make complete

PERSONAL:

-Read two books this month “Power of Now” and “Girl wash your Face” -drink more water and use fitbit for health steps tracking   -journal and write more regularly

HOME:

-keep up with dishes -wipe all surfaces every few days or as needed -laundry daily/weekly -vacuum/mop often
5 tips to update your home

5 tips to update your home

As a homeowner, sometimes you need to scrap everything. The answer is to update your home and change the space entirely. It’s one of my favorite things to do when I’m restless and need a new vibe in my home. It is easy to get bored of your surroundings, so doing a low-cost makeover on the style of your home is simple. Painting the walls a new brighter and lighter color will make such a big difference in waking up a stuffy room. Go to the home improvement/paint store like Lowes or Rhodda and pick up a few paint sample cards. Check them against the wall and get enough of a paint sample for swatches on your wall so you can physically see them as they dry. When you’ve decided on a color you like, buy your brushes, drop cloths or plastic, painters’ tape and rollers. And put on some old clothes to wear while you’re working. If you are working on a dark color you may also need primer. I’m a responsible young adult with a rental house in the city and I never realized how crucial having reliable garbage and recycling services are. It can be frustrating and confusing if you’re new and don’t understand the guidelines. Since living here I’ve been striving to sort and recycle much more than I ever have before. But things like house paint cannot just be tossed out! PaintCare (including Oregon, 7 other states and DC) provides safe and effective recycling of paints from households and small businesses like painting contractors and property managers. The PaintCare stewardship program began in July 2010 in Oregon. Drop-off sites consist of paint retailers (paint, hardware, home improvement stores) that volunteered to take back paint making it easy for the public to do so without hesitation. These places accept house paint, primers, stains, sealers and clear coatings (shellac and varnish). There’s no charge for bringing your paint to a PaintCare drop off site. There are 170 sites in Oregon and PaintCare is funded by the PaintCare fee which is in the included price of paint sold in Oregon. This is used to fund all parts of paint program:
  • Paint collection

  • Transportation

  • Recycling

  • Public Outreach

  • Program Administration

  • To manage old “legacy” paint (paint that accumulated in homes/businesses before the program started)

Is there paint sitting in your garage or business right now? I bet it’s old and has been there awhile. If you’re not going to use it up, the good news is they will accept paint even if it is more than 30 years old so now you have no excuse- go recycle it! I’d recommend going to the PaintCare website and seeing where and how you can donate or use up that leftover paint.     Now, the next step is to rearrange furniture, it specifically changes the whole outlook and feel of a home. You can always make things even more interesting by looking up Feng Shui. Maybe moving the chair one of you really loves into the corner for a reading nook. Or hang a new piece of art that you enjoy seeing daily. Switch your couch and TV to opposing walls if you can or flip the couch’s position. If you have a rug, clean it or shake it out to breathe new life into your cozy floor covering. Try adding some lovely flowers or oxygenating plants for a livelier feel. When creating, a new aesthetic feel for a room is as easy as purchasing a few new things to incorporate. Even on the cheaper side if you are on a tight budget, go to stores like Michael’s or Home Goods. Another way to add to your home is to place collections or trinkets of things you love and enjoy. And mirrors will always make your house look much bigger.   Clutter is a thief of time, it’s silently there trying to mess up your day. When you can’t find your keys, your shoes or your phone-making your life a whole lot harder. It’s not a good thing to have a lot of clutter from your closet to your pantry. A good place to start is by gathering some organizational materials to fix the problem areas. Using shelves, containers and labels to combined loose objects in your cupboard to make things look neater and overall easier to find. When organizing the madness, do what makes the most sense. If you use your brush before your lipstick, then keep your brush in the top drawer and your makeup organized near the back or in next drawer down. In the pantry keep your spices clustered together and your flour next to your sugar for baking. Make sure all your perishable items are sealed for the longest shelf life. By using labels in your cupboards, you can avoid putting that flour on your cereal or baking soda in your coffee. With these tips, hopefully you can refresh your home and enjoy the new space a little bit more this season.
5 ways to cheer up after disappointment

5 ways to cheer up after disappointment

Now this post was inspired by something I have been going through and didn’t expect it at all. We didn’t plan for it or see it coming so if there is a next time I guess we will know better. (No not pregnant) But this can be applied in most any situation and I suggest to think these over and do your best to not let yourself get too low or helpless about the circumstances because most of the time we are far from powerless. Whichever direction we take it’s still moving forward in one way or another. In the end you never know maybe this will make you a stronger person who can respond and handle difficult times with grace and mutual respect.

1. Identify your feelings and own them

When disappointment hits hard it’s difficult to know exactly what you’re feeling. A messy mix of emotions and confusion about the situation. Whether it be a personal disappointment or being disappointed in someone else- these processes can be hard to navigate. You have to know it’s okay to be upset, hurt, confused, surprised, deceived, angry and actually just purely disappointed. This didn’t go your way but often that’s how things work out and it’s how we learn life’s lessons. It makes us stronger in the end and shows us that life isn’t always peachy.

2. Try a new hobby, skill or trade

A positive way to spin a crummy time is to learn something from it. So be proactive and in turn productive for your bright future. What things are you into? What is that one hobby or language you’ve always wanted to learn? Why not try it now and expand your knowledge and experience! Knitting or crocheting is usually a popular choice. Start a blog about anything you love and I guarantee someone will be into it! Start exercising and eating better to lose that weight you’ve been battling since the new year.

3. Spoil yourself with self-care

Now c’mon what is the first thing you wanna do when things go wrong? So that’s your answer right there. Maybe take yourself out or go workout. Do a face mask, hair mask, foot soak or epsom salt bubble bath. Journal or write-get your words and feelings flowing. There are many ways to make yourself feel better and explore what your feeling before you can move on.

4. Be with others and talk it out

Talking to your support system no matter if that’s a spouse, friend, family member or role model/guide is very important to get these feelings off your chest. Someone else can converse with you and maybe provide you some comfort, solace and perspective that you wouldn’t otherwise see. Having any kind of disappointment can diminish us pretty easily and we tend to get hard on ourselves when something has not gone the way we planned. One way you can do this is by listing the pro’s and con’s of the situation and gathering what you might have learned from it. It turns a bad feeling into a learning experience.

5. Get back in the ‘saddle’ OR move on

At some point, the wallowing has to stop, the conversations get circular and even when you just don’t know what to do- you just have to try again. Or you can move on to a new goal in life and make the best of it. Everyone’s’ life has a different set of circumstances and while someone might seem like they are ‘on top of the world’ you never know what it’s like behind closed doors. So make the best of a crappy situation and buck up! Maybe if you can’t get to this place where you’re okay then my other tips will come in handy and you can slowly but surely move past it.

 

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