9 low key date ideas

Who’s ready for Friday? I am. Relaxing I hope because it’s easy to forget to spend quality time together alone and without friends, family or little ones around. So I wanted to share “9 low key date night ideas”. We’ve done a lot of these ideas, they’re a lot of fun. There’s a few ideas where you might think “that’s not a date..” but I assure you the minute you let go and start having fun together it’ll feel romantic no matter what you’re doing. They are not holiday related at all but some of these can be adapted for the holiday season, I’ll explain. Here’s what I came up with and if you have any others please leave a comment below.

BOWLING

I love going bowling! It’s silly, athletic but not difficult and fun if you do decide to go with a group. A group date for this is very acceptable. Even sometimes more fun and competitive when you’re challenging each other. Disco or Glow bowling is even more fun and sometimes even cheaper than a regular rate, it is later but unless grandma and grandpa are coming you’ll be able to manage. Either way I suggest a short game or two as it’s easy to get tired, hungry, grumpy or your hands will start to ache from throwing those heavy bowling balls. The loud music and black light in the fun of bowling just amplifies it for me- try it, if you haven’t ever been!

GO TO DINNER AND A MOVIE

Ah, the classic date, yes but don’t fix what ain’t broke. I’m not much of a movie theater go-er so we will either rent, buy or stream a movie of our choice. Sometimes having a walk through a store on a special night is fun for us. Simply browsing together and seeing what is out new in,  say Best Buy,  because we are techie-people is a nice cap to the night. Also here’s where we aren’t as adventurous as others; we are picky eaters. So trying a new restaurant usually isn’t high on our list. But you sure could take this time to try new cuisine or have a fancier dessert (which is what we opt for) or drink (sometimes).

EXPLORE

Go on a walk or run a trail you like or have seen before, head to the beach, mountains or desert (whatever is close to you) and enjoy being in nature. Here in the PNW I take it for granted- I think next year that’s gonna change. I love a good walk especially outside in a forest area along a river or stream. Walking our dogs out to a trail or place we haven’t been before to socialize them more if a good idea. They don’t get out enough and honestly neither do we, such homebodies. Fresh air is great for your lungs and makes your body feel new if you’ve been inside for too long.

Taking pictures on outings like this can be really nice by going making memories and getting each other and the scenery on film (digital) is a keepsake! So be sure to bring your camera, phone or other Polaroid for taking pictures.

A large garbage bag or plastic sandwich bag (to drape over your camera in case of rain) less likely to get damaged by any rain or moisture. I suggest wearing good shoes (not flats) like tennis shoes, hiking shoes or boots. Downplaying the weather conditions can be easy to do but also will ruin your trip. Don’t hike anywhere you aren’t familiar (or at all) without a buddy. Also a day hike is better, so no hiking at night. Be safe!

COOK TOGETHER/MEAL PREP TOGETHER

If you both love to cook then this is a great date night activity. Go to the store together-gather your ingredients, make something a little fancier, try a new recipe. Normally I’d want to follow a recipe if you’re like me, experiment and have fun. Meal prepping can be tedious but with a partner you can nearly cut your time in half! I don’t meal prep but I think this would be fun (also if we had a bigger kitchen). Depending on your kitchen, have your husband grill, fry or boil noodles. While you can cut, chop or blend whatever else you need. Once your done spend time together by having a glass of wine and talk about what the week looks like.

REARRANGING YOUR FURNITURE

This is one I wasn’t sure I should include. I know that we really enjoy doing this together when we need to shake things up. If your selected room let’s you change the layout with your furniture-it’s fun to shape shift your living space. Usually in our bedroom we will put the bed on a different wall or move our dresser to a new spot. Living rooms are easy to do by moving or combining pieces in new formations in your open space. Just make sure you can still open doors and windows. Don’t cover any heater vents or wall heaters- be conscious of that! Safety hazard! I kind of believe in my own version of Feng Shui- just by moving things and vacuuming the floors, I feel newer in the fresh environment. It gives you a new mindset I think. This is probably most low key of all- but I enjoy it the most!

CREATE A PLAYLIST

Date night playlist? Travel mix? For special adult time? Select songs that you both like. For some couples that’s harder than others but it’s okay put a big mix of everything in there for each style. I think if you can handle each other day to day, you can handle a three minute song you don’t like. I have a few bands that I know we both like and he made me a playlist called  “in the car music” it was a sweet sentiment. A guy can also apply this idea to a girl/woman he likes- everyone loves a good mix tape/CD/playlist.

PLAY VIDEO GAMES OR BOARD GAMES/CARD GAMES

This is a great idea if you’re a gamer like my husband is. Playing games together can be inviting and fun, challenging and innovative. Go buy a game together and have the stronger player help the other. Guide them through and have fun overall. Grab a variety of snacks (healthy or not) and enjoy spending time doing what the other enjoys. Board games can also work if you have friends or family nearby. Cards are a go-to staple when things are boring and slow. They are great for your mind as well, quick for wit so shuffle out the Gin Rummy or there’s always Go Fish!

STREET FAIRS/FARMERS/SATURDAY MARKETS

Farmers markets are usually seasonal but can also open your mind to new food and produce or canned goods that you may not see otherwise. It nice to walk around locally on a spring or summer day looking through all the vendors. Saturday markets (like the one here in PDX) has a wide selection of food, goods and services as well as specialty things like face painting for young kids. Look up online under your city index and see if there’s one near you. They could be weekly, monthly, or during a particular season or sort of festival.

MINI GOLF

Just another time to be goofy and silly with one another. Stay light hearted and have fun without being competitive. It’ll take her 25,000 times to get that ball into the lighthouse but come behind her and swing with her. Show her your sweet, helpful nature and be affectionate.

I hope you’ll try some of these next time you need a day (or night)) out. Take pictures and make new memories. Never forget to nourish the relationship you’re in. It’s too easy and damaging to be too complacent. Enjoy each other!

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Simple Ways to Show You Love Someone

This post is loosely about “The Five Love Languages” and I really liked putting thought into this for new, fresh ways that I should even apply more of the ‘showing instead of just telling’ someone you love them. I don’t know about you but I’m not always the best at remembering to be present and show love. I’m working on this and striving to be a better listener for my marriage. I’m still reading through this book so I will not claim to be any kind of expert or know it all but, I am familiar and clear with the principles it’s based on. It’s a book I’d love to read with my husband but neither of us are big readers, so we will see.

say I love you, give a compliment, use kind words to describe them etc.

The easiest and simplest way of showing someone you love them is by simply telling them. But as you say it let the words sink in deep. Just like people rush into bed or marriage sometimes you should never rush into an “I love you”. You should always mean it and never say it just to make someone love you. These words are not to be taken lightly obviously because it helps our significant others feel more cherished and appreciated. Even if it turns out to be something you don’t even know about- I’ll use this as a great example. I never knew how my husband talks about me when I’m not there- but after a recent conversation, he admittedly said something like “I’m always raving and ranting about how wonderful you are and how much you help and care for me everyday…My friends know how much I love you.” It was totally in the back of my mind and I never batted an eye but it melted my heart to hear how kind he is especially when I’m not there.

help them with something (a task) 

A great way to show he’s loved is by helping him do a task that you may not be a part of normally like gardening or helping him fix something. This also works well vice versa by having his help and bonding over easy chores you’d like a hand with: pesky laundry or dirty dishes, make it fun and playful so you can express the love while you accomplish something. You do a task without expecting anything in return , the act in itself is showing outwardly affection. In our home, from the start of moving to a rental house we divided chores to be fair so if Sean mows the lawn, I know my job is dog poo poo duty before he does. That’s still (to us) a small task that shows love because it’s helpful and one less thing he has to do in the end. It also saves his bad back too which I know he appreciates. 

gift them something with genuine thought (not always something bought)

Now this one is more about the thought and intention behind the action and less about the actual gift or presentation. If I were to try this, it would be a homemade card or a hot cocoa mix or thinking of making a care package for a certain person or time that would be helpful. This could also fall under like helping with a task because you could make a special dinner, put out a nice presentation, decorate and make dessert. Like to me, even though it’s not a big thing- getting fresh flowers are a grand gesture because it’s rare and I love it that much more! 

show them with hugs or physical affection

Being psychical is a keystone to any relationship so if that is an area you’re lacking then I suggest to create more effort there. The smallest actions have the biggest effect on a person and their love meter. Like in our relationship- I love it when he kisses me on my forehead or holds my hands and strokes the back of it to calm me. He enjoys when I sit on his lap, give him big hugs or cuddle and lay next to him. He wants to see and feel my affection before anything else. This is also part of his love language- he’s a physical touch person. But it’s not really mine so I’m much less dependant on these things to feel love.

I hope these ideas help you to spend more time with your significant other and be closer to them by doing small little things that they might appreciate. What small thing could you do for your significant other or spouse that would show them love today? 

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