Welcome Happy Day link-up, created by Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird (one of my favorite blogs to read and follow). I have been participating in this for years but I find it as a great thing to do when you need a reminder to remain grateful and realize whats made you so happy lately. So what’s made you happy this week? Here’s mine:
1. Cleaning my apartment and trying to focus on being eco friendly 2. Good conversations with friends 3. Spending time with my pups 4. Thankful for my mom’s health and my own health 5. Music that is making me so happy 6. Snacks galore on my “lady time” 7. New Routine AM/PM-skincare, hygiene etc 8. Going to Gentle Yoga class today! (update on how I liked it) 9. The Great British Baking Show- Jo Koy’s new stand up, loving Netflix right now 10. I want Fall weather to come, its been so breezy and cool, it’s just really nice to have rainstorms that are warm and peaceful
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Starting off I’ll give you some back story: this boy was my childhood best friend, first ever love interest and the grandson of my wonderful next door neighbors. So when I say we ‘grew up together’ we did, because because most of the time I was away with my grandparents but when he came to his grandparents then we could hang out 24/7. We were both each others first kiss. Growing up he was my person and I’d like to think I was his. That best friend who you just cant get enough of: talking, learning, being around each other and adventuring out together. I couldn’t have asked for a better childhood experience. Now I’ve grown up and moved on but he is still a VIP to me.
Recently, we reunited after a random messenger chat and a lot of “this happened and that happened” in each others lives. I didn’t know where to start and I was in shock. We just grew apart, after a few traumatic events and some drama-it just never got back to where it was. He moved to FL and I moved away and went to college. Though I never forgot our friendship, it was a new time in my life.
All I knew was that we had both been through a lot and yet it seemed so easy being back in each other’s lives. We’d had our ups and downs and it all felt natural that we snapped right back into a close knit friendship where we were against the world. And although people change constantly and grow up over a matter of years (8-10 years), sometimes it still feels the same. That’s nice to know you have “those” friends in your corner.
If you find yourself in a similar situation or trying to reconnect with someone from long ago, these are the four major tips and things I suggest:
1. We all have struggles-that we may or may not talk about
So with this one, there are a ton of things that you may not share with just anyone but that one or two closest people in your life know. Some things are so personal that they can be heavy on your soul and it feels better when you know someone gets it and feels your pain.
2. Time is irrelevant
The friend is just there through everything and will always be around no matter how much time has passed. It could be a week, 3 months or 5 years (or longer), but that person is right there when you need them on your team. Also know that if this doesn’t happen its for a reason, sometimes we grow apart and that’s okay too. Be at peace with it!
3. Friendship takes work and forgiveness
Go slow. It can be overwhelming trying to catch up and become close again after so long. And maybe it’s not weird or awkward at all but, still be patient with the other person and with yourself. Sometimes we say or do things that in the moment maybe we don’t understand from both perspectives. Take a minute, think about it and talk it over, apologize if needed and be accountable with where things went wrong.
4. You know who your people are
Don’t waste your life with the wrong crowd. You want to make sure that those around you are doing positive things in your life, understand you fully and support you when needed and don’t show any signs of use or abuse in a friendship/relationship space.
I think time can heal most wounds and although it was a great amount of time, I didn’t realize how heavy it would be. Things I had long forgot about were still affecting this other person. I had to do some inner work, apologize and more importantly forgive myself for not knowing. But the way a true soul bond friendship feels is very unique and I’m glad that I have that back again. Now we can continue a friendship as adults and once again share our lives with each other.
What do you think? Have you ever lost a true deep friendship or reunited with someone after years? What advice would you give to me or someone going through this? Leave me a comment letting me know what you thought. I felt like this was important to share and was therapeutic to get out for myself.
Every month I set up a few good goals to achieve and keep me going through the month. These are a few I’ve picked out to work on this month personally and to grow myself. Tell me what you’re aiming to accomplish this month?
1. Get Permit
I’ve been studying off and on for weeks using an app to learn some of the general answers to the questions. I feel good about it now that I’ve been getting lots of test questions right.
2. Keep consistent with blogging/social media
I was solid for the whole month of May and on top of it and regularly posting like a good blogger/online entrepreneur. I want to schedule some stuff out so that I don’t forget or not have content. So I’m going to create an actual plan for that set up. Also be more active on social media Fb page and Instagram.
3. Set up a VA page again of services and testimonials
I would love to help those people who need like a right hand gal for those pesky tasks done and for those who just don’t have time for admin and social media type tasks. I have done it a little in the past and would like to pick it back up. 4. Get at least 2 newsletters out this month (draft ahead of time)
Draft up a newsletter catching everyone up and create new opt in for finding and gathering new subscribers to my community. Providing something that’s both useful and valuable is what I need to create for others. I wanna keep my readers up to date on not only my life but my posts bi-weekly.
This post dawned on me one day when I was deep in a pit of despair. Yep, it was a few months ago and I was depressed but I don’t think I knew it at the time. I was nothing but a slob on the couch and barely moving at all through the day. Just continually going through the motions and not giving a damn about anything or anyone. So my group of blogging besties started talking about being better with self care. And I think everyone was having a hard time about this point, so I had to brainstorm (with their help) new ideas of things to do for myself that would improve my mentality. This is where I got so many answers and started trying to apply them back into my life. Also I took a lot of thought about what I take stock and value in and where I put my own fire and passion into. Overall, it helped a lot to get me centered back to some new form of myself. Now I’m feeling better, I have more resources and have a better idea of what to do when I’m stuck there next time because there will be s next time. All I can hope is that you’ll take something from this and realize there is so much more you can do for yourself to rejuvenate your mood or headspace when you need it most.
Nap– Sometimes a nap is just what the doctor ordered, getting rest restarts your mind, body and soul so this is also something I do a lot
Listen to music-Create a new playlist each month or just turn a station on and jam out, have a dance party or learn new lyrics instead of just humming along.
Watch new tv shows-I mean Netflix and C H I L L what else can I say? We have so many streaming options, no joke I’m watching like 50 shows right now trying to finish them all. What is your current favorite show or binge worthy series? Maybe on hulu or Prime?
Go to a coffee shop by yourself or with a friend– Order yourself the best most fanciest coffee or drink that you love and indulge in. Why? Because you deserve it every once and awhile.
Go to the library and research or check out a book-Take a trip to the library. It’s a great place to do some quiet uninterrupted work on your computer, research, read a book in the corner, check out a new genre or get to know new people in a class or workshop that they often provide for low cost or free.
Listen to a new podcast or one you love– There are now thousands, probably millions of different podcasts or audio book if you’re into those more (see above^)
UNPLUG– We all need to do it more. Or at all, if you’re like me. SO face it and take a day or weekend off. I’ve been more and more quiet online and trying to refocus
Do a face mask– I like a good face mask. My skin always feels 1000x better after I care for my skin. I don’t have a routine personally yet but it’s very important because none of us can “Turn Back Time” we only get one face, one body- so we must take care of it and I’m really only realizing that I’ve failed to do this in my thirties now. Anti- aging here we come….
Do a hair mask- Alternatively, when my hair is dry and breakable, it will make you feel brand new I guarentee you. Plus luscious model hair, who doesn’t want that? Take some selfies while you’re at it!
Take a bath with bubbles, bath salts or bath bombs– What is better than a hot bubble bath, steamy shower or nice long soak! If you’d like I’d love to reccomend this shop by my best friend who is creating and making bath goodies and massage oil Check her out here- Ashley’s Home Scents
Do or get your nails done– I love getting my nails done personally it’s one of the most relaxing things I can do. I bite my nails but I love how they look and feel when I get them professionally done. Or otherwise just do them at home manicure yourself. It’s an instant confidence boost for me!
Have your favorite drink (whatever that may be; wine, cocoa, smoothie, tea, coffee etc)-I personally love coffee in the AM and tea at night. Tea is also great when I have a headache or want to relax.
Spend some time reading and focus on that alone, be present with the story-I haven’t been a huge reader in the recent past. I go through phases of loving to read and falling out of love with it. It takes a lot for me to get into a book so I suggest finding reading lists or spending time at your library. I need to create a new habit such as reading before bed or in the mornings with coffee.
Workout, take a class-Go get your sweat on! Try something new or go for a run. There are plenty of new fun exciting and different workout regimes online that you can easily access online. Go treat yourself to some new gear and outfit, you’ll feel great in no time!
Learn a new skill: like a language, trade or hobby– I learned french in high school and while most of it stuck with me, I am in NO way fluent. So a great way to pick this back up in Duolingo. I’m practicing in my free time, a few minutes here and there and it’s fun. Explore a new hobby, there’s thousands of things you can do so just try something and don’t be afraid to learn more.
Meditate– Clearing your mind is IMPORTANT. And I believe that mediatation is a practice. It’s not an overnight thing. But it can do some amazing things like lower your heart rate and blood pressure, deep breathing, help you focus and battle your mental illness and help you get a clear head when you feel jumbled up or overwhelmed. All you need is 3-5 minutes a day to see an effect. Don’t be discourgaed at first if it isn’t your thing, give it a chance and just sit with it if need be. It’ll change your life I promise. Plus there’s so many apps and ways you can meditate- most of which are completely free.
Try Yoga– A great way to workout, stretch and relax that I’m starting as soon as possible. I am headed to create a practice here too with the help of a local yoga studio and a online video playlist. But it’s a great alternative to workouts and does a lot for your mind, body and soul. Stretching and being more flexible again is something I’m really looking forward to like my old dance days.
Redecorate your room/rearrange your furniture– Rearrange your furniture! It’s so fun and can easily send a fresh vibe through your space especially if you’re keen on feng shui. There’s a whole bunch of tips and tricks online whether you use it or not, but it’s one of my favorite things to do and also counts as a workout right? I rearranged a lot as a kid and I think it helped my mood. Redecorate if you can fully, if not just get a new painting or small room decor, sometimes even a peel and stick wallpaper (to be on the safe side) is fun and can really give you a whole new look!
Try a new hairstyle, makeup look or nail polish color- Another one of my favorite things! I often change my hair or look when I need a pamper or am in a rut of some kind. One of the smallest things you can do is change your fresh coat of polish and it makes you feel like a million bucks I swear! Play with makeup- it’s just a fun thing to do and can also boost your self esteem and give you a new face completely and alter how you see yourself.
Call and talk to someone, make plans to do something together- if all else fails, drag someone outside with you, to coffee, to a park, to another state or on a trip. If that doesn’t fancy you, just have a good old chat! Maybe it help you realize something you’ve never thought of before or reconnect with someone who means a lot to you.
On the regular I tend to jump to taking a hot bath or shower, watching a new tv show or treating myself to a nail appt or haircut. It’s just my self care language to treat myself so I wanted to try simpler ideas that don’t cost money. I’ve been starting to read more often and keep on top of my daily habits a bit better to solidify my routines. Starting yoga as a physical exercise regimen is something I’m actively planning on incorporating next month and I hope to perhaps become a yoga teacher through local training at a studio’s new location a few blocks from me. That would start in October which would be good timing I think for my life until the end of the year. Something as a driving force and if it will gain me new experiences with new people, gaining knowledge and also get some some side income would be so nice.
If you try these ideas or already have these as your self care routine, let me know in the comments!
Wow, 31 years on this earth that’s crazy. It’s gone by in the blink of an eye. My mom has five of us all older (I’m the baby of the family) so I can’t believe that at this point we are all over thirty. In this 31st year of my life, I have come to a very big realization (with help from my husband) that I want more out of my life. I am not doing much with it and I’ve been getting away with being for lack of better words- lazy, unmotivated and not driven to further myself in any way. Truly this makes me sad when I have sat and thought about it. Motivation does not create action- Action creates motivation so I’m getting started!
How did you feel when you turned thirty? Does age matter to you at all? I’ve always felt younger than I am so that’s a strange thing. People always assume that I’m much younger than I am as well so I just don’t mind aging as much I guess. Along with my 100 in 1001 list, I am verging out to do 31 things in year 31 of my life.
Here they are:
Go house hunting
Buy a house
Get another dog
Save 5-10K for savings/emergency fund (build up)
Plan and take a trip (maybe dream trip-Greece?)
Begin Yoga teacher training in October
Redesign Blog/New Message-Aim for goal or purpose
Post at least once a week for the next few months/6-12 months
Revamp newsletter/new opt-in
Get Medical and Dental Insurance and be up to date on everything
Be more open to sharing your life with others, in social media or otherwise
Keep going to the chiropractor
Get my blog back-end straightened out
Take care of dogs health and wellness (shots/teeth cleaning/weight mngmt)
Start and maintain a weekly cleaning schedule *share on blog*
Get a health checkup/dental work done
Transfer family pics to SD card/Print off pictures for mom, send them to her
Celebrate Sean’s birthday in June
Self-care time weekly
Read more books this year
I hope you’ll continue along with my journey as I document and share every week and month in my life. It’s about to get very exciting! I don’t have any birthday plans but that’s okay. I think we will just have a nice dinner at home and relax and enjoy the day. Summer is here and that’s enough for me, plus the pool opens a few days after my birthday so as long as it remains warm- that’s where I’ll be.
So I’ d love if you left me a comment down below telling me what’s one goal you have for the next 6 months of 2019?
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