Happy Friday 7/12/19

Happy Friday 7/12/19

Welcome Happy Day link-up, created by Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird (one of my favorite blogs to read and follow). I have been participating in this for years but I find it as a great thing to do when you need a reminder to remain grateful and realize whats made you so happy lately. So what’s made you happy this week? Here’s mine:

1. Cleaning my apartment and trying to focus on being eco friendly
2. Good conversations with friends
3. Spending time with my pups
4. Thankful for my mom’s health and my own health
5. Music that is making me so happy
6. Snacks galore on my “lady time”
7. New Routine AM/PM-skincare, hygiene etc
8. Going to Gentle Yoga class today! (update on how I liked it)
9. The Great British Baking Show- Jo Koy’s new stand up, loving Netflix right now
10. I want Fall weather to come, its been so breezy and cool, it’s just really nice to have rainstorms that are warm and peaceful

If you come and join our little party here, be sure to tag @whygirlsareweird or go to her blog and tell her I sent ya! Use this image that shows that this is her link-up.

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Reconnecting with a childhood friend

Reconnecting with a childhood friend

Starting off I’ll give you some back story: this boy was my childhood best friend, first ever love interest and the grandson of my wonderful next door neighbors. So when I say we ‘grew up together’ we did, because because most of the time I was away with my grandparents but when he came to his grandparents then we could hang out 24/7. We were both each others first kiss. Growing up he was my person and I’d like to think I was his. That best friend who you just cant get enough of: talking, learning, being around each other and adventuring out together. I couldn’t have asked for a better childhood experience. Now I’ve grown up and moved on but he is still a VIP to me.

Recently, we reunited after a random messenger chat and a lot of “this happened and that happened” in each others lives. I didn’t know where to start and I was in shock. We just grew apart, after a few traumatic events and some drama-it just never got back to where it was. He moved to FL and I moved away and went to college. Though I never forgot our friendship, it was a new time in my life.

All I knew was that we had both been through a lot and yet it seemed so easy being back in each other’s lives. We’d had our ups and downs and it all felt natural that we snapped right back into a close knit friendship where we were against the world. And although people change constantly and grow up over a matter of years (8-10 years), sometimes it still feels the same. That’s nice to know you have “those” friends in your corner.

If you find yourself in a similar situation or trying to reconnect with someone from long ago, these are the four major tips and things I suggest:

1. We all have struggles-that we may or may not talk about

So with this one, there are a ton of things that you may not share with just anyone but that one or two closest people in your life know. Some things are so personal that they can be heavy on your soul and it feels better when you know someone gets it and feels your pain.

2. Time is irrelevant

The friend is just there through everything and will always be around no matter how much time has passed. It could be a week, 3 months or 5 years (or longer), but that person is right there when you need them on your team. Also know that if this doesn’t happen its for a reason, sometimes we grow apart and that’s okay too. Be at peace with it!

3. Friendship takes work and forgiveness

Go slow. It can be overwhelming trying to catch up and become close again after so long. And maybe it’s not weird or awkward at all but, still be patient with the other person and with yourself. Sometimes we say or do things that in the moment maybe we don’t understand from both perspectives. Take a minute, think about it and talk it over, apologize if needed and be accountable with where things went wrong.

4. You know who your people are

Don’t waste your life with the wrong crowd. You want to make sure that those around you are doing positive things in your life, understand you fully and support you when needed and don’t show any signs of use or abuse in a friendship/relationship space.

I think time can heal most wounds and although it was a great amount of time, I didn’t realize how heavy it would be. Things I had long forgot about were still affecting this other person. I had to do some inner work, apologize and more importantly forgive myself for not knowing. But the way a true soul bond friendship feels is very unique and I’m glad that I have that back again. Now we can continue a friendship as adults and once again share our lives with each other.

What do you think? Have you ever lost a true deep friendship or reunited with someone after years? What advice would you give to me or someone going through this? Leave me a comment letting me know what you thought. I felt like this was important to share and was therapeutic to get out for myself.

July Goals

July Goals

Every month I set up a few good goals to achieve and keep me going through the month. These are a few I’ve picked out to work on this month personally and to grow myself. Tell me what you’re aiming to accomplish this month?

1. Get Permit

I’ve been studying off and on for weeks using an app to learn some of the general answers to the questions. I feel good about it now that I’ve been getting lots of test questions right. 

2. Keep consistent with blogging/social media

I was solid for the whole month of May and on top of it and regularly posting like a good blogger/online entrepreneur. I want to schedule some stuff out so that I don’t forget or not have content. So I’m going to create an actual plan for that set up. Also be more active on social media Fb page and Instagram. 

3. Set up a VA page again of services and testimonials

I would love to help those people who need like a right hand gal for those pesky tasks done and for those who just don’t have time for admin and social media type tasks. I have done it a little in the past and would like to pick it back up. 
4. Get at least 2 newsletters out this month (draft ahead of time)

Draft up a newsletter catching everyone up and create new opt in for finding and gathering new subscribers to my community. Providing  something that’s both useful and valuable is what I  need to create for others. I wanna keep my readers up to date on not only my life but my posts bi-weekly.

 

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