5 ways to cheer up after disappointment

5 ways to cheer up after disappointment

Now this post was inspired by something I have been going through and didn’t expect it at all. We didn’t plan for it or see it coming so if there is a next time I guess we will know better. (No not pregnant) But this can be applied in most any situation and I suggest to think these over and do your best to not let yourself get too low or helpless about the circumstances because most of the time we are far from powerless. Whichever direction we take it’s still moving forward in one way or another. In the end you never know maybe this will make you a stronger person who can respond and handle difficult times with grace and mutual respect.

1. Identify your feelings and own them

When disappointment hits hard it’s difficult to know exactly what you’re feeling. A messy mix of emotions and confusion about the situation. Whether it be a personal disappointment or being disappointed in someone else- these processes can be hard to navigate. You have to know it’s okay to be upset, hurt, confused, surprised, deceived, angry and actually just purely disappointed. This didn’t go your way but often that’s how things work out and it’s how we learn life’s lessons. It makes us stronger in the end and shows us that life isn’t always peachy.

2. Try a new hobby, skill or trade

A positive way to spin a crummy time is to learn something from it. So be proactive and in turn productive for your bright future. What things are you into? What is that one hobby or language you’ve always wanted to learn? Why not try it now and expand your knowledge and experience! Knitting or crocheting is usually a popular choice. Start a blog about anything you love and I guarantee someone will be into it! Start exercising and eating better to lose that weight you’ve been battling since the new year.

3. Spoil yourself with self-care

Now c’mon what is the first thing you wanna do when things go wrong? So that’s your answer right there. Maybe take yourself out or go workout. Do a face mask, hair mask, foot soak or epsom salt bubble bath. Journal or write-get your words and feelings flowing. There are many ways to make yourself feel better and explore what your feeling before you can move on.

4. Be with others and talk it out

Talking to your support system no matter if that’s a spouse, friend, family member or role model/guide is very important to get these feelings off your chest. Someone else can converse with you and maybe provide you some comfort, solace and perspective that you wouldn’t otherwise see. Having any kind of disappointment can diminish us pretty easily and we tend to get hard on ourselves when something has not gone the way we planned. One way you can do this is by listing the pro’s and con’s of the situation and gathering what you might have learned from it. It turns a bad feeling into a learning experience.

5. Get back in the ‘saddle’ OR move on

At some point, the wallowing has to stop, the conversations get circular and even when you just don’t know what to do- you just have to try again. Or you can move on to a new goal in life and make the best of it. Everyone’s’ life has a different set of circumstances and while someone might seem like they are ‘on top of the world’ you never know what it’s like behind closed doors. So make the best of a crappy situation and buck up! Maybe if you can’t get to this place where you’re okay then my other tips will come in handy and you can slowly but surely move past it.


Currently August

Currently August

This is me. Here I am showing you what I’m into lately. I’ve been so quiet trying to create a space here that I like again.. it’s all slowly coming together though I promise you. Until then, leave a comment below and answer me this question: what would you like to see more of here on this blog? I haven’t gotten much feedback but I’m sitting here listening to whatever you need or want to see or know more of? Thanks! ONTO THE POST.

inspired…..to share more, do more, be more, explore more. I don’t want to continue to be so sedentary and boring. I need to experience life and generally put more effort into it. The only one that can change my daily life is me, the want has to come from within.

organizing…my social media accounts, my life, my desk, my whole house, my closet- I’m in a purging state of mind and it feels so good to get rid of any unneeded clutter. Mental, physical or digital it’s a huge weight off my shoulders.

working…on making this website as professional as possible. I want it to function as more than just a blog. To be a place where I can really share my life in every capacity and maybe grow back to being an online VA presence.

watching…Castaways on ABC- if you haven’t seen it, you need to. It just started a couple weeks ago. It’s a real reality (unscripted, true life style) version of survivor- people deserted on an island to see if they can survive and live off the land/i.e their belongings until they are rescued. It’s incredible. (FYI: I would definetly not make it.  I need my starbucks! And a real bed)

listening to…everything on spotify. I’m following new people. Creating public playlists on my own account and taking in all the media sources. I can’t get enough at this point. Guess I’ve been too quiet inner recently- that has to be remedied. If you have great sugguestions for msuci, movies, shows, podcasts etc please leave me a comment!

cleaning…my kitchen. Over and over again. I need a robot maid for my kitchen itself. I clean it, I cook, it’s messy, rinse, repeat. I’m so tired of doing dishes.

wishing… that I could visit heaven. Missing my lost family and friends a lot lately- wishing for more time, more conversations, more connection. I could really use tighter hugs from them all right now.

discovering… it’s all up to me. I’ve been doing a lot of inner digging, realizing that I still have so many issues that I have never dealt with and I really need some counseling for that ish. But overall my life is pretty great, I need to be mindful and create the changes to become the person that I want to be better than I’ve been lately (oooh that got DEEP).

wanting…all the things. New Younique makeup, essential oils package, scentsy falls scents/warmer, grown up fall clothes (maybe not from Target?), a new desk chair because this one KILLS my back/no support, porch decor oh and a new unit because constant noise/issues.

planning…a trip for next years anniversary- our BIG 10 years! LIKE HELLO! Personal accomplishment. That’s a serious thing for people my age. No one stays together anymore and that’s really sad. I love my husband! Where should we go to celebrate and/or renew vows?


August Goals and Intentions

August Goals and Intentions

August is winding down the  summer season, getting ready for school and the end of summer parties to kick off! And with it means a new site, new posts and new goals so let me ask you: Who’s ready?! I sure am.

I have not been doing good lately with checking things off my master to do list. But that’s about to change when I go back over my goals from the last year I compiled and check off all the ones that I either completed without knowing or things that are still in progress. Either way it’s a good time to regain composure on my intentions and what I want in my life with the following days, weeks and months until 2019 is upon us.

I’m going to re evaluate my goals because my goals from January to be honest have completely changed and are much more simplistic now. I can easily see what is within reach and what is not.


-Cleaning routine: dishes PM, tidy, clean counters, open blinds

-laundry on rotate schedule (AM)

-vacuum more often

-continue 2018 declutter

-fresh air/scentsy/diffuse



-two to three posts a week

-redesign all my graphics to match my newest layout


-always share to all social, maybe use Buffer/Hootsuite again

-design blog module, landing page and other pages

-schedule and plan in planoly


-post daily as directed

-share the opportunity with others

-watch more trainings

-practice makeup skills and be confident in growth

-go live a few times a week at least

-“do it scared” and try NEW looks

-post for makeup classes/parties etc for new ladies to earn makeup for FREE

-achieve the LOVE YOU TO PIECES goal


-read daily/at least one book per month

-get rid of clutter

-self care sundays

-do personal development daily

-stop biting nails! (break this habit)


-spend quality time with husband in evenings, weekends

-us time


-yoga workout 2-3x per week MWF

-Wake up daily at 7am-then back to 6am

-drink daily water goal

-use fitbit daily to track steps-reach new step goals; stuck inside, go use treadmill


Last month I went through a funk and it was sorta hard to pull myself out of it. Now I realize it’s up to me and with enough self care and discipline that is is more do-able. I’m determined to make this month better and since we are already five days in- I guess I better start right now.

How about you? What are your August Goals and Intentions? Was there things lacking last month that didn’t get accomplished or maybe you’re ahead of schedule? Tell me in the comments below.

There are lots of brand new exciting things coming soon- I PROMISE!! Keep your eyes peeled… I also fixed the newsletter signup (sorry about that folks!) but go to my sidebar and be sure your on the mailing list so when I get the next newsletter out yall will be informed!

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