[Book Review] Feisty and Fearless:Nice Girls CAN be leaders

This is the review of Feisty and Fearless on Goodreads.com: Goodreads Review
A few words about it and what others said:-
“In Feisty & Fearless: Nice Girls CAN Be Leaders:

• The characteristics of effective leaders
• 14 Exercises to guide you through your work in becoming a more effective leader
• Discover that Caring is one of the keys to authentic leadership

Read stories of women leaders:
• An artist who empowers children
• A successful CEO who puts her family first
• A divorced mother who reinvented herself to provide for her children
• An actress turned successful business owner who heals a family rift
• A child leader
• A company leader who thinks empowering others is her main job
• A world-renowned expert and author who puts her ego aside
• A feminist who lets nothing stop her in her work to have women learn how to be safe

“Wow, at last! Here is a feminist voice that covers discrimination of all colors and sizes – bigotry against women, Jews, immigrants, having red hair, too little money and too much, fat, bossy. The list is endless.” Carolyn Howard-Johnson, award-winning author of Imperfect Echoes

“We all have a back story, the failures and the poor decision making we recognise when we look back on our lives, and Pauline Is refreshingly frank about her own ups and downs. Her determination to step up and show responsibility is a practical manual in leadership skills which will inspire and motivate many women.”
Karen Abrams Lawyer/Lecturer, U.K.”

Here’s some questions that Raewyn of Shield Sisters Initiative (book club in part) put up on her blog when we had our discussion. 

  1. Ok, to start, I want to know what words stood out to you the most in the title? Feisty and Fearless: Nice Girls Can Be Leaders I think Leaders stood out to me because I don’t often see myself as a leader. I don’t step yp to the plate and usually fall somewhere towards the middle as a organizer or follower of a project or way of thinking. 
  2. How do you define leadership? Did it change as you read the book?  Leadership to me is taking the reins and standing strong no matter the cost, also sounds a lot like bravery to me; I suppose they are one and very similar. 
  3. Which leadership traits do you possess? Courage, responsibility, integrity risk-taking openness, listening, engagement, empowerment caring  responsibility, integrity, openness, engagement, empowerment and caring
  4. Which of the leadership traits do you think you need to work on? Courage, responsibility, integrity, risk-taking, openness, listening, engagement, empowerment, caring Courage, risk taking, listening
  5. Which leader from the book did you connect with most? What other leader role models do you have? Ria Severance because she was working in the job field I would like to be in and juggling a very successful and busy lifestyle and family. I don’t have many other good positive role models in my family/friends. I would say my blog tribe is a good pillar of support and examples. I don’t believe I have many. 
  6. What was your favorite quote?  “Mistakes and failures are everyday occurrences, but if you try to be perfect and hold everyone on your team to a similar standard., the results will be anything but perfect. We learn what works by finding out what doesn’t.” -page 37 of 95
  7. What were your overall thoughts on the book? I never really thought that a book about being a “leader” would be for me. I’m not too much into the ‘marketing yourself in business’ kind of books. Self-help is another story I’m 100% behind those, hell I need them. I am however, a nice girl who wants to be more confident and gain skills for being a leader (at least for myself). I always wondered why I was not a stronger leadership type and truth is,  I never learned it or had to. And when I did have the option to practice being a leader I just stayed in the back as a member of the team. So I figured I’d give this book a chance of giving me some insight. The start of this book was very slow and confusing because she started with examples that seemed to lead nowhere. She mentioned a bunch of women who are leaders in different ways of life. However overall, I did find it useful and was worth the read. I saved quite a few motivational quotes and bits of it for when I need inspiration to keep moving forward. I like the author and have heard good things about her and other pieces that she’s written but this wasn’t her strongest. Although going back through the book the exercises inside each chapter at the end were helpful in deepening my leader spirit. 

If you’d like to read and answer these questions or just out of personal sharing feel free to! I’d love to hear what you have to say. 🙂 

Currently: February

This month is already half over! Who else didn’t feel like yesterday was Valentine’s Day? Because it felt weird to me. We don’t usually celebrate Valentine’s Day but we have so many other dates in the year that we buy presents for and celebrate loving each other. So yesterday we simply spent the day at home together and Sean made me dinner. He used to make this wine cooked chicken when we first dated so he decided the night before to suggest making it again. And the side of corn which was yummy too.  It was so delicious! I hope you had a great Valentine’s Day and a good week so far.

Reading…  I finished Feisty & Fearless a few weeks ago so I have started the second month of Book Club for SSI. This month the book that was chosen is Miracle Morning, I started it and got a few chapters in so far so good.

Wishing… It was Spring. It’s starting to warm up a tiny bit and I’m excited to enjoy the warm weather and nice spring/summer clothes. My closet is screaming at me and things wanting to be worn soon.

Writing… I have been writing and blogging steadily and it makes me very, very happy to know that I’m being consistent with it. I enjoy sharing my life and thoughts with you.

Watching… I just finished watching When Calls The Heart and it was so good. I enjoyed the first two seasons and can’t wait for more to come to Netflix. I just started a show called “Crazy Ex Girlfriend” and it’s kind of a comedy spoof show but I like it. BREAKING NEWS: The Golden Girls is on HULU. You should run not walk to go watch it now!

Listening… I’ve been still stuck on audio books. I bought a few new ones I’ll share the titles with you. I STILL need to read You are a Badass. I keep getting into new book and I really wanted to read Miracle Morning so maybe next month!
-Talking as fast as I can by Lauren Graham
-Troublemaker by Leah Remini
-Seriously, I’m kidding by Ellen Degeneres
-BossyPants-Tina Fey
-Why Not Me? by Mindy Kaling
-Scrappy Little Nobody by Anna Kendrick

Planning… Lots of exciting projects coming up and hoping to guest post and collab with more people! I am loving this blog and where it’s headed.

Things I Can’t Live Without: On My Nightstand

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water bottle

I’m not the greatest water drinker however, when I’m thirsty or feel thirsty I’m surely dehydrated. Which is NOT good but I dislike water with a passion. It’s not something I make my daily routine or naturally gravitate towards. But now I’m back trying to guzzle down all the water I can to avoid beig dehydrated and feeling so thirsty all the time. I always have a big bottle before bed and I end up drinking it all through the night. I found this bottle-> Thermos 24 Ounce Hydration Bottle with Connected Smart Lid, Teal last year and it definitely motivates me like a fitbit to drink more- plus it’s fun to track on my fitbit/water minder app which will remind me every 30 mins or so and will also track on fitbit and health apple apps. 

a book

A couple good books on my lamp side table, although I tend to read more on Kindle or recently through audio books. Cuddling up with a good book and cozy blanket is one of the best things you can do on a lazy sunday. I love the power a good book holds within its’ chapters between its’ covers. To take the reader on an explorative journey no matter where it may lead. If you’d like to follow me on Goodreads to keep up with books I love and am reading. Right now I’m reading Miracle Morning and also You are a Badass

jewelry dish

I have a jewelry dish with a quote on it and I just love looking at it daily. It says:
“This is my prayer for you: Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds, laughter  to kiss your lips, success to warm your heart, hugs when spirits sag, beauty for your eyes to see,  friendships to brighten  your being, faith so that you can believe, confidence  for when you doubt,  courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth, love to complete your life.”
I like to take my rings off before bed because they tend to slip off during the night. I take my two special necklaces off there too. I’ve had this Amy Cornwell angel necklace (which she no longer makes) for years now and this one (similar) I found at Kohl’s a few years back.


I have continually talked about this but it’s really been that great for me. The Instant Happy Journal has changed the way I think about things and about the parts of my day. I try to act kinder in the midst of writing my way through this daily. It’s small and manageable so you don’t get behind easily (unless you’re me). But I find I can keep writing in it for hours when I sit down and enjoy it. At first it was suggested to me by a vlogger I follow on YouTube, Marissa Lace. If I’ve convinced you that it’ll change your life- then go buy it now or wait until next paycheck because it’s not dated and you can feel free to use it or begin whenever you want to. 

Bloggy Brunch Week 7

This was a crazy hectic week because I have been working on my very first sponsored post. Most bloggers probably wouldn’t share that but I’m so lucky that I was chosen for this opportunity so I’m working really hard on it, slowly. It’s due this next week so after that I’ll be starting all kinds of new projects as well.

How to Organize a small linen closet was one of my favorites from this past week. I’m in a place that I want to start downsizing and becoming more minimalistic. I have never felt this way but the cleaning and organization part is what I enjoyed the most and it changed my mind. So I’m going to move to start in one spot and downsize, simplify my home room by room.

Mistakes I made in Blogging I loved this post and as much as it inspired me I was also moved by it because it was “real and relatable” not just written as a blog post.  She talks about all the things she failed to do from the start and to make her blog grow to become stronger. It helps other bloggers see that you don’t have to A) be perfect or even B, start out ‘doing it all’ right from the beginning.

Happy Friday

Happy Friday! 

I hope the end of your week was lovely and productive, mine wasn’t quite as progressive as I would have liked. Like I said last time if you’re new here I love this link-up. I adore Krysten and Lindsay so you should definitely go follow them and be sure to link up every friday to this wonderful community of bloggers. 
1. Valentine’s Day chocolate
3. texting in BitMoji’s to my sister or friends
5. Kindle Unlimited-Miracle Morning
6.Doing my laundry to a good playlist
7. still loving my Instant Happy Journal
8. YouTube marathons with new vloggers I’ve found
9. Writing lists (like this one!) or using 52 weeks of Happiness book
10.Amika Perk Up Dry Shampoo, 5.3 Ounceespecially when I need it
 There’s not a lot of new things happening in my world besides trying to get all my posts out on time. I wanted to tell you that my newsletter edition one was LIVE last week so the next one will be on Valentine’s Day so sign up now if you haven’t yet. You’ll also get my first opt-in which is a beginners checklist to writing blog posts so there’s nothing you forget! I found it very helpful and I use it to this day to make sure every post is complete before I hit publish. I have lots of neat things coming up on the blog so stay tuned! Be sure to link up with these gals on their blogs! 
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