Welcome Happy Day link-up, created by Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird (one of my favorite blogs to read and follow). I have been participating in this for years but I find it as a great thing to do when you need a reminder to remain grateful and realize whats made you so happy lately. So what’s made you happy this week? Here’s mine:
1. Cleaning my apartment and trying to focus on being eco friendly 2. Good conversations with friends 3. Spending time with my pups 4. Thankful for my mom’s health and my own health 5. Music that is making me so happy 6. Snacks galore on my “lady time” 7. New Routine AM/PM-skincare, hygiene etc 8. Going to Gentle Yoga class today! (update on how I liked it) 9. The Great British Baking Show- Jo Koy’s new stand up, loving Netflix right now 10. I want Fall weather to come, its been so breezy and cool, it’s just really nice to have rainstorms that are warm and peaceful
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Starting off I’ll give you some back story: this boy was my childhood best friend, first ever love interest and the grandson of my wonderful next door neighbors. So when I say we ‘grew up together’ we did, because because most of the time I was away with my grandparents but when he came to his grandparents then we could hang out 24/7. We were both each others first kiss. Growing up he was my person and I’d like to think I was his. That best friend who you just cant get enough of: talking, learning, being around each other and adventuring out together. I couldn’t have asked for a better childhood experience. Now I’ve grown up and moved on but he is still a VIP to me.
Recently, we reunited after a random messenger chat and a lot of “this happened and that happened” in each others lives. I didn’t know where to start and I was in shock. We just grew apart, after a few traumatic events and some drama-it just never got back to where it was. He moved to FL and I moved away and went to college. Though I never forgot our friendship, it was a new time in my life.
All I knew was that we had both been through a lot and yet it seemed so easy being back in each other’s lives. We’d had our ups and downs and it all felt natural that we snapped right back into a close knit friendship where we were against the world. And although people change constantly and grow up over a matter of years (8-10 years), sometimes it still feels the same. That’s nice to know you have “those” friends in your corner.
If you find yourself in a similar situation or trying to reconnect with someone from long ago, these are the four major tips and things I suggest:
1. We all have struggles-that we may or may not talk about
So with this one, there are a ton of things that you may not share with just anyone but that one or two closest people in your life know. Some things are so personal that they can be heavy on your soul and it feels better when you know someone gets it and feels your pain.
2. Time is irrelevant
The friend is just there through everything and will always be around no matter how much time has passed. It could be a week, 3 months or 5 years (or longer), but that person is right there when you need them on your team. Also know that if this doesn’t happen its for a reason, sometimes we grow apart and that’s okay too. Be at peace with it!
3. Friendship takes work and forgiveness
Go slow. It can be overwhelming trying to catch up and become close again after so long. And maybe it’s not weird or awkward at all but, still be patient with the other person and with yourself. Sometimes we say or do things that in the moment maybe we don’t understand from both perspectives. Take a minute, think about it and talk it over, apologize if needed and be accountable with where things went wrong.
4. You know who your people are
Don’t waste your life with the wrong crowd. You want to make sure that those around you are doing positive things in your life, understand you fully and support you when needed and don’t show any signs of use or abuse in a friendship/relationship space.
I think time can heal most wounds and although it was a great amount of time, I didn’t realize how heavy it would be. Things I had long forgot about were still affecting this other person. I had to do some inner work, apologize and more importantly forgive myself for not knowing. But the way a true soul bond friendship feels is very unique and I’m glad that I have that back again. Now we can continue a friendship as adults and once again share our lives with each other.
What do you think? Have you ever lost a true deep friendship or reunited with someone after years? What advice would you give to me or someone going through this? Leave me a comment letting me know what you thought. I felt like this was important to share and was therapeutic to get out for myself.
Every month I set up a few good goals to achieve and keep me going through the month. These are a few I’ve picked out to work on this month personally and to grow myself. Tell me what you’re aiming to accomplish this month?
1. Get Permit
I’ve been studying off and on for weeks using an app to learn some of the general answers to the questions. I feel good about it now that I’ve been getting lots of test questions right.
2. Keep consistent with blogging/social media
I was solid for the whole month of May and on top of it and regularly posting like a good blogger/online entrepreneur. I want to schedule some stuff out so that I don’t forget or not have content. So I’m going to create an actual plan for that set up. Also be more active on social media Fb page and Instagram.
3. Set up a VA page again of services and testimonials
I would love to help those people who need like a right hand gal for those pesky tasks done and for those who just don’t have time for admin and social media type tasks. I have done it a little in the past and would like to pick it back up. 4. Get at least 2 newsletters out this month (draft ahead of time)
Draft up a newsletter catching everyone up and create new opt in for finding and gathering new subscribers to my community. Providing something that’s both useful and valuable is what I need to create for others. I wanna keep my readers up to date on not only my life but my posts bi-weekly.
This post dawned on me one day when I was deep in a pit of despair. Yep, it was a few months ago and I was depressed but I don’t think I knew it at the time. I was nothing but a slob on the couch and barely moving at all through the day. Just continually going through the motions and not giving a damn about anything or anyone. So my group of blogging besties started talking about being better with self care. And I think everyone was having a hard time about this point, so I had to brainstorm (with their help) new ideas of things to do for myself that would improve my mentality. This is where I got so many answers and started trying to apply them back into my life. Also I took a lot of thought about what I take stock and value in and where I put my own fire and passion into. Overall, it helped a lot to get me centered back to some new form of myself. Now I’m feeling better, I have more resources and have a better idea of what to do when I’m stuck there next time because there will be s next time. All I can hope is that you’ll take something from this and realize there is so much more you can do for yourself to rejuvenate your mood or headspace when you need it most.
Nap– Sometimes a nap is just what the doctor ordered, getting rest restarts your mind, body and soul so this is also something I do a lot
Listen to music-Create a new playlist each month or just turn a station on and jam out, have a dance party or learn new lyrics instead of just humming along.
Watch new tv shows-I mean Netflix and C H I L L what else can I say? We have so many streaming options, no joke I’m watching like 50 shows right now trying to finish them all. What is your current favorite show or binge worthy series? Maybe on hulu or Prime?
Go to a coffee shop by yourself or with a friend– Order yourself the best most fanciest coffee or drink that you love and indulge in. Why? Because you deserve it every once and awhile.
Go to the library and research or check out a book-Take a trip to the library. It’s a great place to do some quiet uninterrupted work on your computer, research, read a book in the corner, check out a new genre or get to know new people in a class or workshop that they often provide for low cost or free.
Listen to a new podcast or one you love– There are now thousands, probably millions of different podcasts or audio book if you’re into those more (see above^)
UNPLUG– We all need to do it more. Or at all, if you’re like me. SO face it and take a day or weekend off. I’ve been more and more quiet online and trying to refocus
Do a face mask– I like a good face mask. My skin always feels 1000x better after I care for my skin. I don’t have a routine personally yet but it’s very important because none of us can “Turn Back Time” we only get one face, one body- so we must take care of it and I’m really only realizing that I’ve failed to do this in my thirties now. Anti- aging here we come….
Do a hair mask- Alternatively, when my hair is dry and breakable, it will make you feel brand new I guarentee you. Plus luscious model hair, who doesn’t want that? Take some selfies while you’re at it!
Take a bath with bubbles, bath salts or bath bombs– What is better than a hot bubble bath, steamy shower or nice long soak! If you’d like I’d love to reccomend this shop by my best friend who is creating and making bath goodies and massage oil Check her out here- Ashley’s Home Scents
Do or get your nails done– I love getting my nails done personally it’s one of the most relaxing things I can do. I bite my nails but I love how they look and feel when I get them professionally done. Or otherwise just do them at home manicure yourself. It’s an instant confidence boost for me!
Have your favorite drink (whatever that may be; wine, cocoa, smoothie, tea, coffee etc)-I personally love coffee in the AM and tea at night. Tea is also great when I have a headache or want to relax.
Spend some time reading and focus on that alone, be present with the story-I haven’t been a huge reader in the recent past. I go through phases of loving to read and falling out of love with it. It takes a lot for me to get into a book so I suggest finding reading lists or spending time at your library. I need to create a new habit such as reading before bed or in the mornings with coffee.
Workout, take a class-Go get your sweat on! Try something new or go for a run. There are plenty of new fun exciting and different workout regimes online that you can easily access online. Go treat yourself to some new gear and outfit, you’ll feel great in no time!
Learn a new skill: like a language, trade or hobby– I learned french in high school and while most of it stuck with me, I am in NO way fluent. So a great way to pick this back up in Duolingo. I’m practicing in my free time, a few minutes here and there and it’s fun. Explore a new hobby, there’s thousands of things you can do so just try something and don’t be afraid to learn more.
Meditate– Clearing your mind is IMPORTANT. And I believe that mediatation is a practice. It’s not an overnight thing. But it can do some amazing things like lower your heart rate and blood pressure, deep breathing, help you focus and battle your mental illness and help you get a clear head when you feel jumbled up or overwhelmed. All you need is 3-5 minutes a day to see an effect. Don’t be discourgaed at first if it isn’t your thing, give it a chance and just sit with it if need be. It’ll change your life I promise. Plus there’s so many apps and ways you can meditate- most of which are completely free.
Try Yoga– A great way to workout, stretch and relax that I’m starting as soon as possible. I am headed to create a practice here too with the help of a local yoga studio and a online video playlist. But it’s a great alternative to workouts and does a lot for your mind, body and soul. Stretching and being more flexible again is something I’m really looking forward to like my old dance days.
Redecorate your room/rearrange your furniture– Rearrange your furniture! It’s so fun and can easily send a fresh vibe through your space especially if you’re keen on feng shui. There’s a whole bunch of tips and tricks online whether you use it or not, but it’s one of my favorite things to do and also counts as a workout right? I rearranged a lot as a kid and I think it helped my mood. Redecorate if you can fully, if not just get a new painting or small room decor, sometimes even a peel and stick wallpaper (to be on the safe side) is fun and can really give you a whole new look!
Try a new hairstyle, makeup look or nail polish color- Another one of my favorite things! I often change my hair or look when I need a pamper or am in a rut of some kind. One of the smallest things you can do is change your fresh coat of polish and it makes you feel like a million bucks I swear! Play with makeup- it’s just a fun thing to do and can also boost your self esteem and give you a new face completely and alter how you see yourself.
Call and talk to someone, make plans to do something together- if all else fails, drag someone outside with you, to coffee, to a park, to another state or on a trip. If that doesn’t fancy you, just have a good old chat! Maybe it help you realize something you’ve never thought of before or reconnect with someone who means a lot to you.
On the regular I tend to jump to taking a hot bath or shower, watching a new tv show or treating myself to a nail appt or haircut. It’s just my self care language to treat myself so I wanted to try simpler ideas that don’t cost money. I’ve been starting to read more often and keep on top of my daily habits a bit better to solidify my routines. Starting yoga as a physical exercise regimen is something I’m actively planning on incorporating next month and I hope to perhaps become a yoga teacher through local training at a studio’s new location a few blocks from me. That would start in October which would be good timing I think for my life until the end of the year. Something as a driving force and if it will gain me new experiences with new people, gaining knowledge and also get some some side income would be so nice.
If you try these ideas or already have these as your self care routine, let me know in the comments!
Wow, 31 years on this earth that’s crazy. It’s gone by in the blink of an eye. My mom has five of us all older (I’m the baby of the family) so I can’t believe that at this point we are all over thirty. In this 31st year of my life, I have come to a very big realization (with help from my husband) that I want more out of my life. I am not doing much with it and I’ve been getting away with being for lack of better words- lazy, unmotivated and not driven to further myself in any way. Truly this makes me sad when I have sat and thought about it. Motivation does not create action- Action creates motivation so I’m getting started!
How did you feel when you turned thirty? Does age matter to you at all? I’ve always felt younger than I am so that’s a strange thing. People always assume that I’m much younger than I am as well so I just don’t mind aging as much I guess. Along with my 100 in 1001 list, I am verging out to do 31 things in year 31 of my life.
Here they are:
Go house hunting
Buy a house
Get another dog
Save 5-10K for savings/emergency fund (build up)
Plan and take a trip (maybe dream trip-Greece?)
Begin Yoga teacher training in October
Redesign Blog/New Message-Aim for goal or purpose
Post at least once a week for the next few months/6-12 months
Revamp newsletter/new opt-in
Get Medical and Dental Insurance and be up to date on everything
Be more open to sharing your life with others, in social media or otherwise
Keep going to the chiropractor
Get my blog back-end straightened out
Take care of dogs health and wellness (shots/teeth cleaning/weight mngmt)
Start and maintain a weekly cleaning schedule *share on blog*
Get a health checkup/dental work done
Transfer family pics to SD card/Print off pictures for mom, send them to her
Celebrate Sean’s birthday in June
Self-care time weekly
Read more books this year
I hope you’ll continue along with my journey as I document and share every week and month in my life. It’s about to get very exciting! I don’t have any birthday plans but that’s okay. I think we will just have a nice dinner at home and relax and enjoy the day. Summer is here and that’s enough for me, plus the pool opens a few days after my birthday so as long as it remains warm- that’s where I’ll be.
So I’ d love if you left me a comment down below telling me what’s one goal you have for the next 6 months of 2019?
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These coffee date posts are so popular in online blogs and spaces. I really love them and I think that Alissa Circle’s blog was one that created it or the first one that I saw. I like to read them and see what hanging out with them would be like in real life. Even if it’s just catching up on the day to day life but it’s a sweet moment to relate and be friendly in a context.
First I would say how beautiful it is outside and ask to sit in the sun. I would probably decide on Starbucks because I live right near one and it has outdoor seating. Starbucks is nice for the atmosphere, the coziness, chairs, bright sunlight and it smells like coffee. I would highly suggest the Mango Dragonfruit refresher that’s new to them right now and if anything I’d grab a very sweet, heavy on cream iced coffee.
Second I would tell you that I’m really looking forward to living life again. Okay, without being dramatic, I was very lazy, unmotivated and purely not driven towards anything in the last few years. I AM trying to change that! I need to work on getting my permit/license. And that’s gonna be a process but I have to make myself start. Practice and just be diligent about important adult life goals and achieve them. A passion project is blogging for me that I’ve been doing for about ten years. Getting active again and into yoga is high up on my must do listas well.
Next, I’d mention that I need to be a bit better about this blog and writing space. I’ve been pretty good lately but I meant to post this week already and haven’t. I want to do my work in batches and be better about plain consistency.
I would tell you it’s been a spike of hot weather this week as well. Can anyone handle going from 55 to almost 90 in 5 days… NO THANK YOU. I love summer but a fast drastic change is hard to do. I’m looking forward to our pool opening up again because, despite all the kids around here, I think it’ll be too hot to not go in here pretty soon.
Recently I’ve had some family ups and downs (well what else is new?). I hope that I’m not the only one with drama and siblings who just don’t seem to understand you or treat you like an ACTUAL adult?!
Lastly, my new couch is a favorite of mine SERIOUSLY. And I would tell you that I am in love with the fabric, soft durable material. It’s a grey-blue color and hides a stain or doggie hair very well. We got a new bed frame and mattress too which is again very comfy. I also invested in another pair of headphones because my last pair was peeling and falling apart. But they are a good quality set and will last me for even more years. The sound quality is great too and has a good microphone in it for speaking online if I need to.
I’d walk you to your car or wherever you’re about to be, give you a BIG hug and say goodbye. But don’t worry friend, we’ll do this again soon.
This month I’d really like to up the ante but in simple ways. Like being more focused and narrow on what I truly want. I’ve taken a backseat and it makes me disappointed that I’m not acting like a driving force in my own destiny. So hey girl, SNAP OUT OF IT. Whatever you want can be yours if you only work for it.
May is my birthday month and I hope that I can get back on track and see growth and consistency where I need it. I am working with Pam from Hodge Podge Moments in her Content Playground and May Content Kit and I know it will be the best thing I’ve done for myself and my blog plan. Here’s what I’ve put together
1. Consistent post at least one day a week
2. Post DAILY to FB page and Instagram.
3. Create and keep morning and night routines-perfect them and live more simply.
4. Quality time-love language. Important. Spend time with those I live and SHOW them the proof of that.
5. Personal goal: DO what I say I’m going to do. Keep promises. Work on being true to myself and others.
I’m excited to turn 31 however I’ve had a bunch of conversations and realizations recently that I’m not where I want to be and I’ve let myself become this lazy blob that I don’t like. And I continue because it’s easy. Let me tell you something “easy doesn’t make for a good life”. I want more. Deep down and inside my fears I want to create a beautiful life so that’s what I will start working on. Doing whatever makes me joyful and follow through with my 101 in 1001 plans as well. I know I have limitless opportunities arising here soon and I need to focus and turn my energy into power and direction. This month is the time to create change and I mean real change. So I’ll check back in here or on social media (be sure to follow me on my accounts) and I’ll report my progress through the month. I’m planning some sort of birthday post/surprise or something so keep your eyes peeling mid-late month for that.
Hello again readers! Thanks for returning to my sweet little space here. I’ve been away for a tough month or so but I’m here back and ready and determined to continue and THRIVE! I don’t want to explain myself but I’ve bounced back and definitely want to be more present.
This is a linkup I’ve very fond of that Krysten has and helps me to remain and stay present, thankful and grateful for each and every little part of my life. The idea is to list ten good happy things that happened to you this week! If you join us or make your own Happy Friday then please include this graphic and tell her I sent ya!
1. New couch and bed on sale! Adult furniture was one of our goals and we have achieved where I wanted to be. It’s better quality and will last much longer I feel.
2. Switched from iPhone to Andriod: I am loving it! Such a change but I am happy with my choice. I picked a Samsung Note 9 and I haven’t even used most of its great capabilities yet.
3. Catching up on my DVR shows (currently at 89% full and no more room for anything else). Hoping I can clear out a lot and pair down my choices… 🙂 Here’s hoping!
4. Springtime weather has begun! Oh my goodness. It’s been gorgeous the last few days here and getting warmer which we haven’t seen or felt in 9 months. 73 feels incredible!
She is amazing, sweet, helpful and so knowledgable! Thanks for all my goodies and please check her out! She has a group on Facebook as well called “NEW Catalog – Sabrina’s SCENTsational VIP Group” so search and join us! Her lives, parties, and unboxings are great too.
6. I am a doTerra oil user and rep, I made a personal purchase when I saw this months special was a beautiful marble diffuser with a bundled oil called Citrus Bloom. I NABBED it up before it sold out. And I am glad I did because it’s now my absolute favorite. I hope they bring it on permanently. I don’t know if it is sold out or not- but if you’d like help I can help you order (I do not get paid on your purchase).
7. My dogs have been so needy lately so I’ve been trying to soak up some extra cuddles and sweet sweet moments with them to keep them chill. They have separation anxiety the more we go out and do- so I’m just giving them what they need.
8. Resigning our lease soon! We wanted to move but some BS old debt came up and we have to deal with that first so we stay here, deal with the annoyances and just make the best of it. The apartment here is great BUT the noise and community are not. Also, we live right next to the playground so that causes frustration for us. But I’m doing okay with it- kids are in school for a while longer so I’ll enjoy the quiet while I can.
I think that about wraps up the last week or two of events. Sean is going for an interview for Best Buy so please please send him good luck and positive vibes! I’m still trying to unpack and situate this apartment so that involves a lot of laundry and dishes and vacuuming continuously.
Thank you to Krysten for continuing this! Check her out at Why Girls Are Weird and share the graphic as well!
Soon to be April so goodbye to March but I thought I’d do another check in with you all and tell you what I’ve been up to. I made up a few new prompts so these aren’t totally the same as what you’ve seen before. I’m so excited for our up coming journey packing and moving to a new place (probably still local but we’ll see). What have you been up to lately? How’s life and 2019 been treating you? Drop me a comment down below and let’s start a conversation!
listening: to new music and a new show I’m watching right now called Mental Warrior
eating: Taquitos. YUM!
drinking: Passion tea and also drinking cherry pomegranate juice & more water..
wearing: sweaters and jeans for now but less and less once it warms up for spring
feeling: excitedly overwhelmed
weather: getting warmer, yesterday was SO sunshiney and nice-it’s trying to hard to flip flop between rain and warm sun.
wanting: a spa day. nails, facials, massage, haircut….. I need some serious TLC.
dreaming of: a million dollars/win the lottery, a maid to keep my apartment clean, a nice house to own (someday) and about 10 more dogs to complete my family. *laughs* so what woud you be dreaming about?
thinking: about my mental health and how I can improve. I really enjoy being in this group on facebook and in her From Blues to Bliss program so give that a bit more attention.
enjoying: my corner desk with all my stuff and my focus back on sharing my life on this blog.
The start of 2019 has been a little less than ideal and much more bumpy than I ever expected. I went into 2019 hoping and wishing for the best after a super roller coaster of a 2018. But I didn’t get my wish- still trying to turn things around here. I have been missing around here and honestly really uninspired. But I figure at least an update is in store even if it only covers surface level things.
January started with a bit of stress. I tried working for a little clothing boutique but under all the expectations and anxiety I buckled. It didn’t work out and I felt guilt but I’ve been working on me and figuring out what might be best in the future. Sean was looking for work for weeks and with no success, we continued on. We ended up selling a lot of Sean’s gaming room items, which helped us get by in February. I’m happy to be at home and continue taking care of the dogs on a daily basis. Maggie had an incident with her shoulder and it took her weeks to heal. She’s okay now and back to her perky self but that was the second thing that happened. Then after that hardship, we were behind on our phone bill by what I thought was only a month. But because it was almost 60 days- we were shut off for a short amount of time. Although to be honest, it made me appreciate my phone and technology even more. I feel really bad that happened but we didn’t have a way to remedy it before.
Lately we’ve been making plans or getting ready to make plans to move. I won’t tell you how many times it’s been since we got married (almost every year)…so a lot. But it’s usually for a reason and we’d like to settle down but also we are antsy people who like to get fresh scenery as well. It might be local, or it might not be. We really have no idea. We’d like to save some money and the farther away from Portland you are- the cheaper and more value you get… it’s something we have to weigh with the fact that I don’t drive, work location etc. I’m just excited after coming back to this complex to leave- we have horrible upstairs neighbors that stomp and yell and wrestle and we hear everything, all the time. Except when they aren’t home! We got placed near the playground and around a lot of kids too which isn’t really our jam. I just want a new space and for a better value. I’m sick of paying so much money and not even feeling comfortable and being angry at noise constantly.
In the meantime I’ve been ‘working’ with a friend of mine (and starting a blog post all about it TBA) who runs a custom printwear buisness called Lewis Printwear. Amber is fantastic, sweet, timely and she loves her work! Go check out what she has and you can reach out to me if you’d like a discount code and I’m sure we have one for ya! She has so many designs, customs and pre made tees, tanks, hats, accessories and decals and more to come…. Tell her I sent ya! It’s been keeping me busy resizing images and being a brand rep for her. If you happen to be interested just feel free to email me (find it in the sidebar or on my contact page).
I’ve been brainstorming on some more topics where I can be of help and fill you all in on the highlights of my life and parts you missed because I didn’t share it. I hope you’ll tell me if there’s something you’d like me to write about or something you’re struggling with where I can be of service.
I’m simply hoping that after we move etc things will take an upturn. Send us good vibes and prayers or whatever you believe in.